- Question from Linda: Sometimes I think my children actually experience more anxiety than I do. I've taken them to "sessions" where they learn coping methods, but how do I find a support group with other children their ages in my area?
- Answers - Mitch Golant Great question.
- Rosalind Kleban Look for a Gilda's Club. If they have one, they have something called "Noogieland," a group program for children. In dealing with children, one of the most helpful ways of helping them is to see to it that their schedule, their activities, and their life remain the same. Generally, children do well because it is quite age-appropriate for them to be mostly concerned about themselves. So, actually, more time spent in their age-appropriate activities with their friends would be more helpful.
I would continue that line around looking at the developmental stage of each of your children, meaning that when you describe how your children are coping with your illness, helping them cope depends upon their age. There are some books. Kathleen McCue has written a book called How to Help Children Through a Parent's Serious Illness. It's for the adult to know how to best help the child. Wendy Harpham has a book called When a Parent Has Cancer.
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