- Question from sally: I can't help feeling why me? Then I feel dreadful because I wouldn't wish this on anyone else. How do I start to sort out these feelings?
Well it's inevitable that people will ask themselves that question, and there is a certain injustice in anyone getting cancer and at the same time we are all mortal and something will get us sooner or later.
I am a little concerned that you feel so dreadful about asking the question because it doesn't literally mean that you would wish you illness on anyone else. It is possible to feel a sense of injustice about the cancer without thinking that anyone else deserves it more than you do. I think people get a lot of help in support groups in dealing with exactly those issues, and you are in a room with 8 other women who have exactly the same issues, who have the same illness and ask the same question, and aren't wishing it on one another. I think a good support group could help you deal with that.
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