Conflict in feelings between partners?

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Question from new life: I am strangely calm about my situation, which seems to upset my partner. How can I help him to be accepting but still fight it with me? I don't intend giving in to it and letting it run my life.
Answers - David Spiegel What sometimes happens in couples is that each member picks up one side of their joint ambivalence and that can be a problem because it can drive a wedge between them instead of helping them deal together with the same issues. So, it sounds to me as though you are somewhat conflicted about showing any emotion related to the illness, feeling that you would just be giving in to it and collapsing if you did, and I suspect that the more constrained you are the more emotional he is. He is feeling things for both of you. So I suspect that if you let yourself be a little more emotional he might be a little less.

The Ask-the-Expert Online Conference called Feelings about Breast Cancer featured David Spiegel, Ph.D. and moderator Marisa Weiss, M.D. answering your questions about the emotional effects of breast cancer diagnosis and treatment.

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