- Question from coping: I am dealing with this and I want my husband to just give me some space, he won't leave me alone! What do I do?
- Answers - David Spiegel Some of it may be just communication. He may either be anxious or feel guilty if he leaves you to your own devices. Maybe in a nice way you can let him know that you appreciate his help but he must have other things to do. I'd be very specific about what you want. If you say "Leave me alone," you will insult him. If you say, "I'd like an hour to read," or whatever, you can get some time to yourself. Try to make it specific, concrete, and appreciative of the fact that he wants to be there and help you.
- Marisa Weiss, M.D. Gentleness and good listening skills will make an enormous difference in any of these difficult and sensitive interactions.
- David Spiegel One thing that cancer should do is help you appreciate what you've got, and that means letting people know when they are doing things to help you. They appreciate it and it means a lot to them.
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