- Question from Judy: What if I can't get my friend to talk? She says she is fine, but, honestly, she is falling apart trying to cope on her own.
Marisa Weiss, M.D.
Each woman has her own way of handling stressful situations. If your friend was shy and private to begin with, it's hard to change that style 'overnight', particularly when struck with a serious diagnosis. I have been quite impressed by how quickly people can adjust and find new ways to cope with hardships. If you can show her how much you care, make it clear that you want to be part of the process that helps her, and just 'be there' and keep talking and listening, I think you will see her open up some more.
There is no question, that what makes the biggest difference in women's recovery are the connections that they make with other people, spiritual aspects in their life, places that are meaningful, and helpful information that can come from many different sources. She is very lucky to have you and your commitment in her life. Support groups can also be quite helpful. An encouraging word from doctors and nurses, helping her open up and helping her reach out for strength from others can also make a difference.
The Ask-the-Expert Online Conference called Quality of Life featured Patricia A. Ganz, M.D., and Marisa Weiss, M.D. answering your questions about how breast cancer can affect physical, emotional, social, and sexual aspects of your life.
Editor's Note: This conference took place in October 2001.
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