- Question from Andrea Lyle: My husband saw me in pain for a long time, and I think he's worried that he might hurt me as we return to our old sex life. How can I identify and offset his concerns?
- Answers - Marisa C. Weiss, M.D. It's good that you're communicating and that he feels free to express his concerns with you. That's a great place to start!
- Debra Thaler-DeMers It would help your husband if you and he could agree that if he does hurt you, you will either tell him or give him some kind of signal that lets him know. This would help him worry less about causing you pain during sex. Many times the people we love imagine that we are in more pain than we actually are. It's very helpful to agree that you will let your partner know when you're in pain.
- Leslie R. Schover, Ph.D. It can also be difficult to switch from caretaker to lover if your husband was helping you during your period of more acute illness. It may be important to get some romance back into your relationship so that you can feel like lovers again.
- Marisa C. Weiss, M.D. In addition to letting your partner know when something might be uncomfortable, it's just as important to let your partner know when something feels good. Positive reinforcement will always work well.
On Wednesday, February 20, 2002, our Ask-the-Expert Online Conference was called Intimacy, Sex and Your Love Life. Leslie R. Schover, Ph.D., Debra Thaler-DeMers, R.N., O.C.N., P.H.N., and Marisa Weiss, M.D. answered your questions about how to improve your sex life during and after breast cancer treatment.
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