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Advice on reaching orgasm?

Page last modified on: September 22, 2008
Question from Tootsie222: I have trouble having an orgasm. What should we do?
Answers —Su Kenderdine, M.D.: Your arousal time may well be different now, and it may take much more to bring you to full arousal. The tissues may not respond quite as easily and quickly as they once did, so you may have to be brought to climax in new ways, be that a tongue, sex toy, hand, or a lot more fantasy. You have to experiment with it all.

I do think, though, that all of us who go through breast cancer at some point go through a time when we are so focused on ourselves and what we're going through that we can't be distracted enough by anything to let go with an orgasm. If you're in that kind of an intense period, you may have to be satisfied with just sexual pleasuring but not reaching an orgasm for a while. To reach orgasm, we have to step out of ourselves so completely, let all the barriers down and let all our concerns go in that instant. You may not be able to do that right now.
Marisa Weiss, M.D., president and founder: But you still can have some fun.
Su Kenderdine, M.D.: Definitely!

On Wednesday, May 19, 2004, our Ask-the-Expert Online Conference was called Sleep or Sex? You Can Have Both! Su Carroll Kenderdine, M.D. and Marisa Weiss, M.D. answered your questions about how to maintain sexual intimacy during and after treatment, what to do for loss of libido and vaginal dryness, ways to reduce the fatigue related to breast cancer, and more.

The materials presented in these conferences do not necessarily reflect the views of breastcancer.org. A qualified healthcare professional should be consulted before using any therapeutic product or regimen discussed. All readers should verify all information and data before employing any therapies described here.

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Su Carroll Kenderdine, M.D. is a family doctor and breast cancer survivor who conducts workshops on sexuality for women recovering from breast cancer.

Marisa Weiss, M.D. is a radiation oncologist specializing in breast cancer and the founder, president, and guiding force behind Breastcancer.org.

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