Should the children see the surgical scars?


Question from fran: My children want to see my surgical scars. I've been avoiding showing them, yet I have to ask them for help in lifting things and doing regular chores. How should I handle these situations?
Answers - Marisa Weiss, M.D. If you were used to being naked in front of your children before your diagnosis, then you should look for the time to ease into that normal pattern. It's very important to let your child know what your body looks like before they actually see it. Please look at the reconstruction pictures in our Picture of Treatment Section, as well as the pictures of surgery. Once again, helping your child understand what to expect will make this adjustment to seeing you naked again much easier.
Joan Hermann It's important, as we said before, that a mother should do what is comfortable for her, what she is used to in that regard.
Marisa Weiss, M.D. If you did not show your children your naked body before, then now is not the time for doing it. And be sure you ask the child why they want to see it. What are they imagining is there? What are they scared of?

On Wednesday, August 16, 2000, our Ask-the-Expert Online Conference was called Kids and Mom's Breast Cancer. Joan Hermann, L.S.W. and moderator Marisa Weiss, M.D. answered your questions about talking to your kids about breast cancer.

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