Dealing with guilt-tripping relatives?


Question from Betsy FL: How do you deal with relatives who try to make you feel guilty when you take time for yourself?
Answers - Marc Silver That's when you delegate whatever you're supposed to be doing to your husband, and you go ahead and take time for yourself. Your husband can run interference with relatives who are pressuring your in any way.
Rosalind Kleban, L.C.S.W. I often tell families, in dealing with a major illness such as cancer, it's not a democracy, but a dictatorship run by the patient. She needs to figure out what is helpful, and the family needs to be supportive. One of the things we encourage women who are going through the breast cancer experience to do is to be good to themselves, to take time for themselves, and to delegate chores and responsibilities.
Marisa Weiss, M.D. Amen! I say get Caller ID and avoid phone calls when you're not interested or able to talk to demanding or annoying people.

On Wednesday, September 15, 2004, our Ask-the-Expert Online Conference was called Family and Loved OnesRosalind Kleban, L.C.S.W., author Marc Silver, and moderator Marisa Weiss, M.D. answered your questions about the issues surrounding family members and caregivers living with and caring for women affected by breast cancer.

The materials presented in these conferences do not necessarily reflect the views of Breastcancer.org. A qualified healthcare professional should be consulted before using any therapeutic product or regimen discussed. All readers should verify all information and data before employing any therapies described here.

A production of LiveWorld, Inc.
Copyright 2010. All rights reserved.

Was this resource helpful?

Yes No
Evergreen-donate
Back to Top