- Question from Viktor: I keep getting asked whether I've read all the material for spouses. I have, but I feel like this comment is thrown at me as a sign of not caring. How can I deal with this?
- Answers - Marc Silver I have to confess that I couldn't stand to read any material when my wife was going through treatment, and that was my method of coping. I didn't want to be overwhelmed with information. As long as you and your wife are sort of finding the right amounts of information to bring to a doctor, you don't have to feel guilty or obligated to read a hundred different books.
- Rosalind Kleban, L.C.S.W. I often encourage patients not to read at the beginning. Very often they're much too fragile and vulnerable. They're reading an awful lot and misunderstanding things and they're frightened. When you're dealing with friends or relatives telling you what to do, you need to convey to them that you and your wife are struggling to figure out what is correct for you. If you feel comfortable, say something like, "the way my friends and family can help me best is to support me." One method of coping is not right for everybody.
The Ask-the-Expert Online Conference called Family and Loved Ones featured Rosalind Kleban, L.C.S.W., author Marc Silver, and moderator Marisa Weiss, M.D. answering your questions about the issues surrounding family members and caregivers living with and caring for women affected by breast cancer.
Editor's Note: This conference took place in September 2004.
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