Friend taking over emotions, too much advice?


Question from Marjie: I don't know if this will make sense, but I feel like my friend is trying to take over my emotions, telling me how I should be feeling, etc. How do I get her to step back? She is a marvelous friend, but this is too much.
Answers - Rosalind Kleban, L.C.S.W. I would tell my friend that I understand how much she cares and how hard she's trying to help, but this particular way isn't helpful. You can tell her that like most people dealing with breast cancer, you are going through a jumble of emotions. You are experiencing different things at different times and no one — friend or professional — can dictate how you should feel and when you will have those feelings.
Marc Silver Husbands try to take over like that, too. Actually, there's a wonderful quote in my book from Roz Kleban, and what she tells guys is, "Hurry up and do nothing. Sit there and hold her hand and listen to what she has to say."
Marisa Weiss, M.D. What's the page?
Rosalind Kleban, L.C.S.W. Page 53, I think.

On Wednesday, September 15, 2004, our Ask-the-Expert Online Conference was called Family and Loved OnesRosalind Kleban, L.C.S.W., author Marc Silver, and moderator Marisa Weiss, M.D. answered your questions about the issues surrounding family members and caregivers living with and caring for women affected by breast cancer.

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