- Question from Nancy: How do I support a friend with a potentially fatal outcome and not dash her hopes of recovery? What is the best way to express my concerns for her?
- Answers - Lidia Schapira Your friend needs to know that you celebrate every day that you are here and together. You can talk about your sense of impending loss if you think it is appropriate to discuss with her, and also talk about the good times you've had together. Even if you know that she will die soon, it is really important to stay in the picture, remind her of your love, and find reasons to express joy at the bonds you share, and your close friendship.
- Jennifer Armstrong, M.D. You may want to ask her how you can best support her, especially if you're able to phrase it as beautifully as you did for this question, in that you want to support her in every way possible. Sometimes when it's difficult to talk about the disease, it's easier to talk about the friendship, and how much she means to you, and why. If you're willing to talk with her about what she's going through, willing to listen to her fears, and willing to be there when she doesn't want to talk about anything, she is lucky to have you.
The Ask-the-Expert Online Conference called Coping With Your Changing Feelings and Relationships featured Lidia Schapira, M.D. and moderator Jennifer Armstrong, M.D. answering your questions about facing your fears head-on, handling moodiness and depression, diffusing tension with your partner and feeling close without sexual activity, as well as issues of self-image and femininity.
Editor's Note: This conference took place in March 2006.
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