On Wednesday, November 21, 2001, our Ask-the-Expert Online Conference was called Lesbians and Breast Cancer. Lisa Weissmann, M.D., Cheryl Pearson-Fields, M.P.H., and Marisa Weiss, M.D. answered your questions about being gay and having breast cancer.
Question from Celia: I have not told many people that I'm gay. Should I let my health care providers know that I'm gay?
Question from One of Two: I want my partner to be accepted as an equal, just as the husband of a heterosexual woman would be accepted. How do I make sure she gets the information, concern for her well-being, and visiting and next-of-kin rights that she deserves?
Part of this problem is trying to be dealt with by educating physicians about their own internal homophobia and the homophobia of the medical establishment. While this certainly is changing particularly in the major cities, it remains a problem for many of the physicians that patients need to see.
Question from Marylnn: How can I be sure that if I come out to my health provider my personal records will stay confidential? I am not comfortable with the thought of this information falling into the wrong hands (i.e., work).
Question from Non-stereotype: Why do so many medical professionals assume all lesbians smoke, drink, and are stressed out? It really makes me angry.
Question from Janis D: My family hasn't spoken with me since they learnt of my relationship. Now I have been diagnosed, I really need their support but don't know how to approach them.
Question from My Day: I read somewhere that there is an increased chance of a lesbian contracting breast cancer. What is the reasoning behind these findings and what can I be doing to ensure I am minimizing my risks?
But it's really difficult to counsel lesbians to have children under the age of 25 to reduce their risks of breast cancer. Therefore, the same things that increase the risk for breast cancer in straight women similarly increase the risks for lesbian women. So it's not something unique to being a lesbian that confers the risk of breast cancer, but that lesbians as a group may have risk features at a higher percentage. For you as an individual, all the things that we have to be able to do to reduce the risk of breast cancer hold true, such as eating a healthy diet, avoidance of alcohol, exercise, and don't smoke. The statistics on alcohol would suggest drinking less than 3-5 drinks of alcohol per week.
Question from Michelle: I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. I have to go back to the surgeon next week and want to take my partner with me, but am afraid that my doctors' attitude towards me will change if they know I am gay.
Question from Wonder: My partner has had a mastectomy and it has affected her attitude towards me. Now she won't let me touch her and is shutting me out. I want to show her that I love her with or without the breast.
Question from Pat-2: Would you agree that the experience is more difficult for lesbian partners than it is for male partners? Is this why couples sometimes split up?
Question from SF Carl: Are there support groups for friends of lesbians with cancer?
Question from Jessie: I have only just accepted my sexuality. I have not had many relationships and now have to face this. I have had a partial mastectomy and feel very self-conscious about how I look. What are new partners going to think when they see me?
Question from Hopeful: My partner has been very angry since my diagnosis—I can't put my finger on why. I need her support, but she seems to be blaming me for getting this disease and interrupting our lives.
Question from Pat-2: Does the Mautner Project have links with anything similar in the U.K. and Europe? Can we contribute to the work of the project in any way?
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