On Wednesday, October 17, 2001, our Ask-the-Expert Online Conference was called Quality of Life. Patricia A. Ganz, M.D.,Marisa Weiss, M.D., answered your questions about how breast cancer can affect physical, emotional, social, and sexual aspects of your life.
Question from Milly: I have a family history of breast cancer, and it is constantly on my mind to the point where I am starting to obsess about it. How can I get past this?
Question from Penny: Now that my treatment has ended, many family and friends try to change the subject when I try to talk about what I have been through. Am I supposed to pretend this has never happened now?
Question from Maggie P: How do I get back to my 'old' self? Nothing seems the same anymore.
Question from Sylvia: It has been months now, and I still can't look at myself in the mirror. How can my husband look at me if I can't even bear to look at myself?
Question from Sally: I am coping okay with my diagnosis and treatment, but my husband has turned into a fusspot and is driving me insane. I feel like I am in the hospital permanently with the constant attention. How do I get him to lighten up and help me enjoy life?
Question from Why Me: Since my diagnosis, I have been very depressed. Nothing seems to make me happy. Why do I feel this low, and how long before I can be my happy self again?
Question from FJB: I worry about my young children. I want to show them how strong I am and that I am still the same old mom they know, but I tire easily, and they are very fearful that I won't be here for them. How can I get them through this?
Question from H Judd: Do you think that I should get my whole family into a support group? I find it invaluable, but my husband thinks he doesn't need any help.
Question from Irene P: I have recently had a breast removed. Luckily, it all happened so fast that I didn't have time to really think about it. But, now, as I recover, I am worried I won't be able to do all the wonderful sporting activities I was doing before. I am 37, and I have always lived for my sport.
Question from Jo: I am concerned that my chemo treatment could cause early menopause. This has all happened so fast that I don't think I am asking the right questions when I see my specialist.
Question from Vera: I'm only 45, yet I'm already having hot flashes. Breast cancer is in my family, but I've never had it. Can I take estrogen?
Question from Nancy T: What do you suggest as a pick-me-up for women during treatment? I would like to help out a friend, and I just don't know where to start (she is pretty down at present).
Question from Kate: My concern is how am I going to return and fit in at work? My career was on the move before my diagnosis, and I am afraid that now I will be passed up for promotion because I am a health risk.
Question from Lindel: Will I get past these silly hot flashes and panic attacks? They are ruling my life.
Question from Nancy: I've gained 10 pounds during chemo and radiation that I can't seem to shed. I'll finish chemo in early Christmas. Advice?
Question from Grace: Is the recovery time much more than a year when a double TRAM flap was performed?
Question from Nana: It seems that my priorities have changed since I have been diagnosed with breast cancer. Why would this happen?
Question from Judy: What if I can't get my friend to talk? She says she is fine, but, honestly, she is falling apart trying to cope on her own.
Question from Bio Pat: Do you think it is helpful at all to consider hysterectomy/ovary removal for someone with breast cancer that was premenopausal at diagnosis? Would it help chances of not having recurrence?
Question from Rosie: With a history of breast cancer in the family, what are some proactive steps I can take for my daughters and myself to ensure our lives are not ruled by this constant threat yet remain vigilant?
Question from Sam: My sister has just had her second breast removed (she had her first breast removed 8 years ago). She is incredibly sick with the chemo. I have great fears that we could lose her. Is it true that to have the cancer return after such a long time that it is likely to be terminal?
Question from Tess: I am worried my daughter will end up getting cancer, too, and it will be entirely my fault.
Question from Ben: I know that breast cancer affects way more women than men, but it's very prevalent among women on both sides of my family. Should I be worried about breast or other forms of cancer (I find I'm just feeling anxious).
Question from Kate: Are we much closer to getting more women-friendly drug treatments that could possibly replace the debilitating chemo? It's bad enough having the cancer, but the chemo is just awful, and I get so, so sick.
Question from Sunshine: I am much more impatient now than I've ever been. Could this be coming from the changes in my hormones?
Question from Regards: How do I find a good support group?
Question from Boadicea: I feel I may need to change my life a bit after mastectomy/chemo, but I seem to be very fragile, emotionally. Is it the same for many?
Question from Bio Pat: What are your feelings about the correlation between stress and immunity on the risk of recurrence?
Question from Nana: I will be finishing radiation in two weeks with no chemotherapy. I have been placed on tamoxifen, but I still have this fear that the cancer will come back. I keep having the fear that it will return. Is the success rate good with tamoxifen?
Question from Candy: My mother had a mastectomy in April of this year. She has not let this horrible disease get her down! A positive attitude must be helpful for someone who has breast cancer, am I correct?
Question from Barbara: My memory is shocking since starting chemotherapy. Will it recover after a while?
Question from Bio Pat: I guess since having breast cancer myself, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. My greatest wish is for a cure. How close do you think a cure might be?
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