Resentment for healthy partner affecting sex life?


Question from Lexi: I've been finding myself very jealous and actually angry that I have had to go through breast cancer, but that my partner hasn't. She's never been so healthy! I find myself pulling away from her intimately and emotionally. Any advice?
Answers - Leslie R. Schover, Ph.D. I think that for gay women a special challenge of breast cancer is that you can so easily empathize with each other. And that means that the well partner sometimes pulls away because of her fear that she could be the one who's next. But it also could be the woman with breast cancer distances herself because having a healthy partner reminds her of what she's lost. The thing that is most important is to keep communicating with each other and I think it's important to let your partner know about those feelings and to talk about them. That may help the two of you feel closer, to share the experience. It's a normal human feeling, not something to be ashamed of.

On Wednesday, February 20, 2008, our Ask-the-Expert Online Conference was called Sex, Intimacy, and Breast Cancer. Leslie R. Schover, Ph.D. and Kara Nakisbendi, M.D. answered your questions about sexual side effects of breast cancer and breast cancer treatment, and what you can do about them.

The materials presented in these conferences do not necessarily reflect the views of Breastcancer.org. A qualified healthcare professional should be consulted before using any therapeutic product or regimen discussed. All readers should verify all information and data before employing any therapies described here.

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