- Question from gosox: My partner has not been close to me since my chemo. Now I am in radiation and he does not ask how I am feeling etc. It seems he has completely ignored me and my cancer. We have not been intimate since. He says he is afraid of losing me. Please help.
- Answers - Lidia Schapira Sounds to me that this illness has taken a toll on your relationship. You are both suffering and not able to connect at this time. Perhaps your partner is terrified, and the best advice I can give you is to go slow, invite him or her to talk with you, and be open about your fears. Don't try to rush things. And, if you find that you can't make any progress together, seek out a third person (a mental health worker, a therapist or a common friend) to help you start to talk about this experience. There is no set formula for how long it takes for people to come to terms with a crisis such as cancer.
The Ask-the-Expert Online Conference called Coping With Your Changing Feelings and Relationships featured Lidia Schapira, M.D. and moderator Jennifer Armstrong, M.D. answering your questions about facing your fears head-on, handling moodiness and depression, diffusing tension with your partner and feeling close without sexual activity, as well as issues of self-image and femininity.
Editor's Note: This conference took place in March 2006.
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